Happy New Year

OK! 2009 is coming to a close. Time for all the good stuff to start happening again in my life! I plan on having a bunch of finger foods for dinner...cuz I don't feel like cooking... and a few martinis! Happy New Year to you all!

Funny/Ironic story for the "NOT THINKING CLEARLY" file

So I started cleaning out the clutter...starting with the Christmas tree. It was put back in the box on 12/27/09. I figured why wait until January, the holiday is over! I moved it back into the garage & started moving other things OUT of the garage. Things that never should have come over to this new house with me in 2008. My mom is a big fan of knick-knack ceramics...and I'm not. Off to Goodwill they went. There was a bunch of little baby stuff that either never got used or they outgrew. Off to Goodwill they went. I found a drawer full of old knifes & stuff mom gave me when I 1st moved out to help us get started. I'm not sure, I can't remember, but I think OFF TO GOODWILL it went. And then I found somethings I completely forgot about. The unity candle...the knife set...and the champagne glasses from our 1997 wedding.

I remember coming across the candle before and I thought I would burn it when the day the divorce became final. I guess I had other things on my mind & I forgot. So what shall I do?

I thought it would be a sort of funny gift if I gave them to my ex, but seeing how he still hasn't even told me that he's getting married I decided against it. I started to send them off to Goodwill as well, but decided to offer them to my neice instead. The candle I did in fact ignite it.

It was dark outside & it sort of gave off a romantic glow.

I went to bed at 2am and it was still burning, similar to one of those 17 hour pillar candles, so I let it keep going. At 9am when I woke up it looked like it hardly melted any...it was still going! I was impressed. Would have been more impressed if it were scented, but I guess you can't have it all can you? Well I walked away to do some work around the house & returned about 90 minutes later....and WOW!! It was gone into a huge wax puddle.

I can laugh because similar to the actual marriage it was a slow burning beautiful glow that seemed to last forever, but when it hit the catalyst that made it burn faster ( possibly the garter that held it together) things went downhill really fast & guess who's left to clean up the big mess? ME!!

Not thinking clearly? I should have known the type of man he was, but I kept hoping that he would change into the guy he pretended to be. But you can't change anyone or help someone change if they don't truly want to change themselves. I obviously didn't think clearly when I said "I do". And I obviously didn't think clearly when I placed a lit candle in a plastic tub....thinking the wax would just collect & re-harden like it does in a glass jar! LOL!

Still alive after all this time...

Wow.. so I've been blogging since 2007? And a lot of my stuff is still here? Well 2009 hasn't been all to great for me as far as the blogging goes, but we'll work on that.

1st of all.. remember way back when I blogged about Disney's 1st black Princess & how excited I was? Well we did go see the movie as well as a trip to Disneyworld to meet her. They took my advice & changed the name of the movie to "The Princess & The Frog" and the main character's name is Tiana. lol...if the Windows7 people can take credit for their ideas, why can't I? My ideas

were posted as proof way back then! My daughter is just as thrilled about her as I was. We didn't get the bedspreads,wallpaper, & everything else yet...but we're working on it.

This year my health has been great. Not one problem from any of the doctors I've had to visit. As a matter of fact, I've been placed on the annual check-up schedule with the oncologists. OH YEAH!! When that board made that recommendation that women only have mammograms after age 50 & only every 2years....of course I had to make a

statement to our local newspaper. lol...I was on the front page that Sunday! The whole idea is ridiculous. Imagine if I had to wait until I was 50 to get a mammogram? I wouldn't be here today.

This Christmas wasn't so bad. The kids got a lot of things that they wanted. So did I...even some things I didn't expect. Like my motherboard to officially die on me 1 week before Christmas.

My techie friend tells me I could buy another motherboard (used), but there's no guarantees how long it would last. On top of that... a new motherboard means a new processor, new memory, etc.... therfore I might as well just go buy a new computer so I can have the warranty....so that's what I got. I actually bought something with cash from my own hand thanks to saving for that rainy day. No charge cards... no "mommy..I need help"...I did it myself. It actually felt great. I also got the big ticket items I wanted on Black Friday by myself... but it would have been easier if someone were with me. I was shocked to find those ZhuZhu pets on Christmas eve at Walmart. I got a 12 MP camera...so you can look forward to more pics from me...maybe pics of me!

I'm still not dating. I'm sort of trying & not trying at the same time. Meaning if some nice guy approached me I might consider it, but I'm not chasing anyone or begging for some guy to take me out!

Yesterday my daughter told me that daddy is getting married next week. How original...getting married on New Year's day. But what I feel is even more sad is that he's doing this only 7 months after the divorce is final. He moved in w/her directly after he moved out from our house...and I'm not supposed to believe that he wasn't cheating during the marriage? HA! Whatever....good luck to the both of them.

So with 2010 coming upon us I have to make my dreams/wishes of accomplishments for the new year (not resolutions). I'm going to work out a bit harder. I started walking in my neighborhood. Got up to walking 4 miles in 1 day. Maybe I can get up to running one day. I'm trying so hard to get rid of the clutter around me in this house. I'm letting go of things I truly don't use & don't need. Hopefully I'll be able to move to a larger place cuz the kids are getting bigger & more active. We need more space. Maybe I'll be able to get a poodle doggy if I have a fenced in yard? We'll see.

The locs? I'm thinking of cutting them this year. I am amazed at the growth, but I'm getting bored with the look as well. Isn't that what a lot of women do after a divorce... a total makeover? Well this year is my year!

Happy New Year everyone!