Busting a Liar....

So this past weekend was his scheduled visitation weekend. I got this email on Wednesday afternoon:

I will be unable to get the kids this weekend due to the fact that my team has been activated to go to an institution in northern florida I will not be back home until sometime next week, upon my return home I would like to talk with ou about getting them, I don't know if you remebered or not about my responce of their school, I am reminding you that I would like to go before I have to go to work that day, I will let you know exactly when I am home when I am on my way back. Sorry for the short notice

So just out of the blue I happened to call his ex wife in Chicago today to ask her about an unrelated event.... and she tells me how he's on his way BACK to her house to drop off their child. Then he walks in & she handed him the phone.
"Hello"
"Uh... yeah. Hey. So when are you coming back home?
"Huh?"
"When are you coming back home?"
"I'll be home tomorrow."
"Alright then."

She says I made her day being able to witness his face fall to the floor. My problem is not with him taking that vacation.... it's the lying about having to work so he could get out of the visitation. I mean I have had to switch dates with him before.... it shouldn't have been that big a deal where he felt he had to lie to me. OH YEAH... he lies to everyone, I forgot. Plus I'm so big & powerful I would find some way to use this against him, right? EVERYTHING IS ALL ABOUT ME! lol

You know it is just so so so sad that he feels he had to lie about such things. I mean really? At what point did I ever say he couldn't go on vacation? He has been working for more than 1 year... he deserved it. Maybe because he took his new girl to meet the family? I wonder what the reception was like. But anyway....I just don't understand the purpose in lying about this.

Ever get to that point....(another open letter)

Where you just don't care about not hurting someone's feelings anymore? Ever get to that point where you feel you really need to say what you want to say... get it off your chest? Ever get to that point where you want to tell someone you once admired how freakin' stupid they are?
Somehow I'm the bad one in this divorce, simply because I won't play by his rules. Yes we had an agreement for week long visitation between the kids & their dad for the summer. That agreement was made last summer. That agreement was made based on the contingent that his schedule was supposed to change to allow him to be home with the children during the evenings. Right now he works 4pm-midnight. The kids are in school during the day. Does it make sense for them to spend the rest of the day with a babysitter??? WHAT KIND OF VISITATION IS THAT?? I wouldn't care if the babysitter was their own grandmother... my mom or yours! If 1 parent is not available for more than 8 hours a day & the other parent is, the kids should be with THE AVAILABLE PARENT! It just makes no sense to me....
And we got that diagnosis of autism to deal with. The dr. told me he didn't think week long visitation between two houses was a good idea. His report even states that "With his medical needs he will require a consistent environment with a high degree of predictability". Yet you want to put your son through 1 week here, 1 week there, back & forth just so you can punch a custody time card! I find it very interesting that you claimed to want to be involved in these dr. visits, but never made a single appointment until AFTER I told you that the dr. didn't think the week long visitation was a good idea. I guess you came in to see if I was telling the truth ( and after being married to me for 11 years you should have known I don't lie like you do!!). And now you want special dr. visits for you & your girlfriend to have therapy with OUR son... without me.That's very beneficial for the child... thanks! Not only that.... you are wasting the 20 allowed visits by my insurance for your selfishness. Do you care??? Of course not.
You don't think of anyone but yourself & it's not fair. Not only to me... I'm not even thinking about me at this moment. THINK OF YOUR KIDS! You know what... think of your girlfriend for a minute. Was it fair for you to have her at court with you today... standing out in the hot 90 degree weather waiting for you to come out because you didn't want her in the court room? Was she supposed to be unseen? Was I not supposed to know your entourage made a 2nd court appearance? Tell them if they don't want to be seen then they shouldn't appear! Either that or maybe hang out further than just 2 blocks away from the court house. DUH! All of you deserve each other.
I hope one day she surfs the web... or maybe you will read this, think it's funny & show her, and I hope she will see this as a warning as to the type of man you are. I don't know how many times I had been warned & I fooled myself into thinking "Oh, he wouldn't do me like that.... they just don't understand him". "He only lies to them because they always try to hurt him... he wouldn't lie to me..." Girl, be thankful you are too old to have kids w/ him... but before he digs into your money (if you have any) RUNNNNNNNN!