1st braid-out
What's going through this sistah's head (and around her head!) on a daily basis?
How come no one pointed that out to me... that my posts were becoming all loom & doom about all over the place about everything? It's been a while since I've posted, I know. The last one I was upset about Valentine's Day coming up. I had just met a guy in the week or 2 before & was hopeful for a nice 1,2 & eventually 3rd date w/ him. It never happened. After out inital meeting, his subsequent phone calls started with the greeting "Heeeey Miss Big-Booty". Was that my cue to start swooning over him??? Then he goes on to ask if I could lend him $500 for his rent. FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS! Mind you, I work for a living & am the single mother of 2 young children. Do you really think I have that amount of money to just lend out to some guy I just met?? Needless to say, when he called after that I did not answer.
You know, once upon a time I used to be excited aboutt Valentine's Day. Wondering what boy at school would give me a carnation or rose... wondering if anyone would ask me to the dance if there was one...wondering if anyone would just ask me out for Valentine's Day at all. When I did have a boyfriend I wondered what special gift he would get for me... how would he present it? You know it looks all sentimental & dramatic on TV & movies... and I never got anything close to it.
I use nikerunning.com with the Nike+ technology in my shoes to track my mileage in my walk/runs. It'll tell me how far I've gone, what pace I kept on average, how many calories burned, and when I set a new personal record I get a recorded message offering congratulations ( like from Lance Armstrong!). It also allows me to set different goals that I don't track on sparkpeople. Like for the month of January my goal was to complete 12 run in 4 weeks, burn 2000 calories, & complete a distance of 30 miles. Today I made sure that I accomplished all 3 by walking 6.84 miles in 2 hours! Lance says that was my longest workout yet!
You know the ending of the "Black & White" video where everyone does that head bob type dance while their images morph into each other? I've always wished I could have been a part of that. Well, this is the closest I ever got. I miss you Michael.
You know, I liked this guy. I really did. We only went out on a couple of dates, but it didn't work out. I wasn't enough of a woman I guess....you know what I mean. Those words he spoke still ring in my ear...how he liked me, but there's 1 thing missing. UGH!
I honestly don't know how to tackle this problem. My life... my finances... my home...it's all a cluttered mess. Every time I think I get started in getting it straightened out, another week goes by and it seems that I didn't even make an effort. I feel like something is missing from my life... that something to care for. I had a husband that it seemed I had to do EVERYTHING for & I resented him for it. I have 2 kids that I have to do things for.. and they are growing more & more independent each day. They actually say "thank you" & try to give hugs & affectionate kisses. I don't have to question if they're doing it because they want something or not. Their love is real.
I dreamed of being somewhere with friends & family... can't identify who, but knew I was safe. Then a 12 ft snake crawls in. I screamed "It's a cobra!! A COBRA!! There's a cobra in here!" at which point the snake began to chase me. When I thought I was far enough away & safe I screamed again to find it wrapping itself around my legs and feet. I couldn't run...and with 12 ft of it's body I thought it would surely cover me up. Ok... my feet & legs are bound...why didn't I use my hands to unwrap him? Anyway, I knew I was facing an certain end, whether it squeezed me to death or bit me, injecting it's deadly venom... I was a goner. I screamed for someone to help me... he's got me... please get him off me... and someone came along & carried the snake off Steve Irwin style, saying it was not a cobra but a python (as if that makes a big difference). I go back to the original location where the friends & family were to find the snake made himself into a dog & people were playing with him!! Sort of like that snake in the movie "Lemony Snickets", how it would give kisses....but this snake would fold itself into the shape of a dog, like the Rubik's Cube Snake circa 1981. I remember looking right at the snake's head....& it's scales were blue, green & yellow.
I just heard the news last night & am seeing images this morning. My heart & prayers go out to the Haitian community at this time.
Well listening to the advice of the lovely people at the mortgage company did nothing but waste money for me. They advised me to have him sign a quit claim so that I can apply for a Deed in Lieu on my own. Lots of $$$ wasted. The house was sold in auction today. I don't know how much or to whom...but I just hate that they showed me this light at the end of the tunnel & it lead nowhere for me. So yeah, that hurts.
I don't talk about this much... cuz I said I forgave him & I honestly wanted to just leave it behind us. But you know when you've been wronged by someone you tend to keep the wrong to the forefront of your mind so that you will not be hurt by that wrong again. Years ago (and pretty early in the marriage) he almost cheated on me. He told me she was just a friend from his high school days...an ex girlfriend in fact...but come on. We're in FL, she's back in Chicago. How much damage can be done by them talking every once in a while? I soon found out. I can't describe the pain I felt when I got the email from this strange man...her husband...forwarding my husband's fantasy w/ her...his wife. Of course I told him that contact w/ her was cut off from that point on & had him call to tell her so. So of course she emails me to give even dirtier details, of how they were arranging to meet up when he visited Chicago in the near future. She was an OES sister & pretended to be my friend. To know a sister could hurt me like that...and even worse.. my husband...who was supposed to be my best friend... my Masonic brother....could do that too? And you wonder why I have problems trusting people!
Labels: No more unity candle
Wow.. so I've been blogging since 2007? And a lot of my stuff is still here? Well 2009 hasn't been all to great for me as far as the blogging goes, but we'll work on that.
I wrote that it was out of my hands & asked for prayer.
Ever had one of those moments when you felt like if you weren't there no one would even notice? I feel like that quite often.. but even more so this past week. I came down with this horrible cold/flu & called in sick to work. Usually my supervisor will call back later in the morning... or at least before the end of the day to see how horrible my sickness is. I went 2 days with no follow up calls from anyone on my team. Then on the 3rd day I drag my weary body into work & they ask "how are you?". I say I am a lot better than I was the previous 3 days.... and then I hear " Make sure you don't cough or sneeze on (your co-worker)". Thanks for missing me.
but as you can tell by my last post I wasn't really feeling very upbeat & chipper as usual. I had to take a break.
Yes I know I'm not a virgin. I have 2 kids.... and I have a past! But when I meet a guy that expresses an interest in me...why does it seem they loose interest when it is revealed that
I keep forgetting to update pictures of how the hair thing is going. Who would have thought that this started out as a hair blog? Well like I said... I watched them go from braidlocs to locs. I didn't see the need to keep taking pictures ever day/week/month to continue watching them. I like the once in a while pic that makes me say "WOW! They are growing!".
In just the past 7 months I said something about the power of life & death being in either the tongue or in your mind. I pointed out how I thought of something and in the next few minutes it came into fruition. I spoke of someone that was unfortunately out of my life & how I wished we could have worked it out to remain friends. We hadn't spoken in more than 10 years. As of last month we've spoken maybe every other day... reconnecting like nothing ever happened.
My high school reunion is in July. 20 years ya'll! I can't beleive I'm going back to see these people I haven't seen in 20 years! So of course I have to look my best!
Not really... but that's the name of the movie I'm watching. "Something New" starring Sanaa Lathan & Simon Baker. A successful black woman about to start dating a white guy for the 1st time in her life. Her apprehension to the subject is very similar to mine, but not exactly. I mean they had a blind date at Starbucks & she walked around saying things like "What's up Brutha" & "Girl you are wearing those locs" to the black people she sees. I wouldn't take it that far.
I get so upset when I see thing going the wrong way & I can't control it no matter my efforts. This issue is nothing new & should have been expected, but I keep wanting to see the good in people & it obviously isn't there anymore.
Dang, I didn't realize how long it has been since my last post. Well, besides being all happy about the events of 1/20/09 I've kind of been going through other things that prevented me from properly expressing how I felt.
I heard someone at church say "Happy New You!" instead of Happy New Year. I like that.... it will be a new me this year. 2009 is so significant in so many ways. The biggest change of course is the change of our president next week. I am so excited about that. I still tear up whenever I view the exact moments on the news when it was projected that he would be our 44th president. Exactly 11pm EST after returning from our local news cut-in I was watching NBC news & there was silence. But there was a graphic that read 44th US President & had his picture. I was confused at first... asking myself out loud "What? He won? He won??" Then finally you hear Brian Williams announce that he had in fact won the state of California as well as Oregon & Washington....the whole West coast, which put him over the 270 needed electoral votes. HE WON! Oh I jumped around alone in my living room that night. I screamed. I cried. I called my mom. I called another friend that volunteered on the campaign & thanked her. My sister in Chicago called me around 2am. Oh it was such an exciting night. Next week is going to be even more riveting.
I cannot begin to describe what I am feeling right now... other than to say this past year has truely been a blessing. I know my life had been somewhat a roller coaster, but just like when you are on one & you learn how to bear the ups & downs... and you brace yourself for the downs you know are coming. In this past year my downs haven't really been all that bad!
Where is your cell phone? Charger